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Alex Swire-Clark

Four Powerful Interview Questions You Must Know

Regardless of which side of the table you are sitting at in an interview process, you can expect some standard question, such as:

  • Tell me a little bit about yourself.
  • What are your three biggest strengths and how do you bring those to the workplace?
  • Where do you see yourself five years from now?

Even though the interview process has changed through the years, these questions remain a part of it. However, interviewers are adding more and more emotional intelligence pieces into the interview equation. To help you prepare for an interview, I have listed four powerful questions that must be asked if you want to find a good fit for the job role. Equally, if you are looking for a new job, these are questions you can anticipate and prepare to answer as more and more employers are using them.

1. Tell me about someone with whom you work on a regular basis that you find difficult to get along with. What have you done to build a stronger relationship and what was the result?

This will take out a personal response to conflict since they need to describe someone they are not getting along with. This will depend on their personality type according to the DISC method (you can find out more about the way each style responds to conflict HERE).
To build a stronger relationship with someone a person needs to have self-awareness. Lacking it will leave them with no skillset to draw from to make a not-so-perfect relationship better on a daily basis. It is also good to notice that in terms of the results of trying to fix the relationship, anything is possible. That includes a person leaving the company just because of one colleague or boss they find difficult to get along with. If I had a nickel for every time on my speaking engagements I have heard: “People leave managers, not companies” …


2. Tell me about a time when you rejected one of your team members ideas or opinions about a project.

This is a question that is more for outgoing styles because they typically don’t hesitate when they have something to say. If you are talking to a D personality style, you can expect that they said whatever was on their mind, since they just let those kinds of things out. I personality style typically share quite a bit and get their energy from being around people, so they also don’t have an issue with speaking their mind.
However, S and C personality styles don’t like to share their thoughts and feelings, especially in public since they are the reserved kind. What you can expect from them even in the future in situations like this is to stand on the sidelines and take notes, and then react privately. In an anonymous email if possible.


3. Describe a time when someone treated you unfairly. What did you do?

Unfairness is a common thing that appears in society these days and people often feel that they are treated unfairly. If a High D feels that they are treated unfairly they will be very tactical and not allow personal feelings to get into a conversation. On the other hand, you can expect a High I to be emotional and talk to the person who made them feel a certain way to get to the bottom of the situation.
On the other side of the spectrum, a high S will internalize the situation and not do anything publicly. They will wait and maybe talk to a supervisor, but for the most part, they will just hold their emotions inside. So, if you want to know how a High S is feeling, you must talk to them privately and one-on-one. Lastly, a high C will be very calm and calculated and know the time and the place to say that they are feeling unfair. Most probably they will approach the person that makes them feel that way and talk to them openly.  


4. How do you know we will be a culture fit for you? What traits you have that match those of current employees? What is different about you or what skill set you have that can better our company in the process of attaining our goals?

Personality style that will put culture in the first place is definitely a high S. These people want to feel as if they are a part of something bigger than themselves and/or a part of a family. Unlike them, D and S personality styles can work independently and don’t require much interaction with other people daily, so they won’t be concerned about the culture, but rather about achieving their own goals.
Talking about traits that match those of current employees will require a bit of research. This is where C personality styles will thrive since they love a ton of research, especially from a standpoint of employee satisfaction. D personality styles will look for potential award winners among the employees because they want to be a part of that kind of culture. Unlike them, I personality styles look for fun in the culture of a company and question will they enjoy being in it daily. Looking for a more family atmosphere and a way to individually contribute to the higher good is something you can expect from a high S. But don’t expect them or a high C to talk much about what are they bringing to the table. They have written it down in a CV and they don’t like to talk much more about their achievements. However, a D personality style will be super happy to tell you about the things they do well so even from that standpoint you can figure out who is what personality style.

Why are these questions important?

When we are interviewing people, we need to anticipate these responses so that we can recognize the personality style of a person we are talking to and tailor the rest of the questions. It is important to keep in mind what position are we interviewing the person for because otherwise, we won’t know how to use this information. What we want from a person is to gain the energy from a role they will be working on, not lose it. Because that can help them overcome the challenges that they have to deal with daily within that role. If you do your benchmarking properly, the person you are interviewing will feel as if the job role was made for them. That will make them feel fulfilled by the role and they will do their best and be super successful.

Using DISC in the workplace can do wonders for your company, as it has for these people HERE. Understand your people and unlock their true potential by joining one of my courses HERE.

How To Anticipate Your Response To Conflict?

I recently found myself in a fast-food drive-through and witnessed a perfect example of a person being triggered by an everyday situation where each personality style would have a completely different reaction.

What happened is: I was in a line to get my ordered food when a driver of a minivan started to go around me outside of all the lanes and tried to pull ahead of me. As a High S personality style, I bumped the horn ever so lightly, trying to figure out what was going on and what is the lady behind the wheel trying to do before she hits my car. What I got as a response was the “finger”!

How to respond to the “bird flip”?

A large number of insults followed the bird flip. This time, it was coming from the passenger on the side seat. 

I decided to let them go ahead of me, but another bird flip from a driver followed that! And they didn’t even look at me once. Obviously, the person was triggered by something, and the question is: what would YOU do in this situation?

How your personality style determins your reaction

Suppose you have a high D personality style. What would make you a direct person who speaks what’s on your mind. Your reaction would probably be shouting and not allowing the person to push in front of me. High D’s might be aggressive and not have a lot of filters when in a conflict situation.

A High I who is outgoing and people-oriented might see how close they can get to the other car without damaging it and make the whole situation a bit playful. They would not do anything manipulative and try to get a positive outcome.

High S personality style as a caring person and all about supporting others would, at the moment the person started to push in front of them, let them try to help them get whatever it is they need faster. Even after the bird flip, a High S would still be welcoming and warm because they are very empathetic and understanding, so they will respond calmly.

And lastly, a high C will wonder why the driver chose to get in front of all the people and think about how the driver’s behavior is inefficient. They will probably let them in at the end but will have so many questions in their head at the same time.

You can only control yourself

We all have a unique way of responding to situations when things stress us out. It’s crucial to have self-awareness about how we will react to prevent ourselves from being triggered in those moments. Otherwise, we let everyone else influence our own emotions and our attitudes. Remember: the only thing we can control is our attitude and actions in this world. If we let someone steal that from us, then the question is where we are as a society. And we become very reactionary instead of proactive in terms of how we approach the world.

To keep control of our attitudes and reactions, it is important to get to know ourselves as much as possible. Finding out your personality style is so helpful in that so I invite you to check out the Store and find out for yourself.

Why Do You Really Get Into a Conflict?

Even though every person is a unique individual, we can still divide the world into two kinds of people: outgoing and reserved. To be more precise, some people think fast, talk fast, and move fast and those are the outgoing kind. On the other hand, reserved people are a bit more on the shy side and typically think well before speaking. That’s just how people are, and even though reserved people will have problems while trying to understand outgoing individuals (and vice versa), that’s just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to conflicts.

Where the conflict lies is in another way people are divided into two groups. Conflict comes from a fact that people are either people-oriented, or they are more task-oriented.

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A people-oriented person gets their energy from being surrounded by others. That means that when they need to recharge their batteries, they will choose an activity that will put them in a position where they are surrounded by people, whether that’s going for a barbecue or walking with a friend around the mall or going to a party.

Task-oriented people get their energy from checking out boxes. That means they will choose to recharge by doing chores, like mowing the grass, cleaning the pool etc.

The conflict happens when these two kinds of people come into close contact, whether by working on the same project or living together. They will always want different things and if they are not careful and understanding, they can easily end up in a “war zone”.

To understand each other it is important to know that every individual is a mix of four different personality styles: D, I, S and C, and that’s where their people or task orientation comes from.

D and C personality styles will always tend to get things done and they won’t enjoy spending time on chit-chat. I personality style will be all about fun and they will move fast, easily getting distracted. An S personality will move slower and focus on people and relationships rather than trying to climb the corporate ladder.
As we said: two groups of people and a sure way for interpersonal conflict. However, there is a way to eliminate it before it even starts.

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Firstly, we need to understand ourselves and how we are wired to then be able to understand others. Once you understand yourself (by taking the DISC Assessment) you will begin to realize how others are different from you and you will get tools and guidance on how to adapt your behavior to meet others where they are.

If you get on the path of understanding yourself and start the road of behavior adaptation, it will lead to a whole new world of ideas and perspectives that you didn’t even know existed. It will impact everything from how you raise your children, how you are as a spouse, to how you deal with and close projects at the workplace. Head over to the Store and take the first step of stepping out of conflict today.

The Cautious High C Personality

Accountants, scientists, philosophers… all the deep thinkers and innovators carry a C personality in themselves. Being a high C personality means that you dislike interruptions and triviality, but you always look at the big picture and give out ideas.

High C or Cautious personality style is characterized by being:

Cautious: High C personality stye will always measure twice and cut once. So if you have a project in your company that you need done right, your best bet is to give it to the High C.

Conscientious: Being on time, every time is a way of life that a High C enjoys. They are not willing to waste time and can be described as extremely punctual.   

Competent: They are the brains behind any operation, and they keep everyone else on their toes. A High C will make sure they do the research to know the facts, prepare everything and present it to anyone at any workplace. Additionally, it is good to give a High C a lot of details about a task before they start working on it, as details and clear instructions provide comfort for High C’s.

Contemplative: When faced with an issue, you can expect a High C to look inwards for ideas and answers to problems or ideas. Being there for them but letting them find a solution for whatever they are facing is the best way to deal with a High C.

Sir Arthur Conan Doyle described the though process of a High C perfectly.

Correct: Not only do the High C personality styles love to be right, but they must be right. Since they love getting into details, they will check all the available resources to make sure they are 100 per cent right all the time. That’s also the reason why is it so hard for a High C to apologize, because they are just “always right”.

Consistent: High C personality style is very consistent in terms of producing good quality details for every situation. That means that if you are in a relationship with a High C personality, you don’t have to worry that they will not be sure even where to eat and what to eat; their mind is made up before they ever enter the restaurant.   

All the characteristics mentioned are certainly desirable in work or private relationship, but as always: there is a downside to being a High C. Being so much into details and tasks at hand can make a High C seam cold. Since they like to end all their tasks that they have in a day, to do so they sometimes see people around them as an obstacle to getting things done. If you are a High C, you need to be careful not to be portrayed as cold and take more notice of people that surround you.

Every personality style has it’s likes and dislikes, and in order to know how to communicate better between us, it is good to know what those are. If you recognize a High C in your home or at work, keep in mind what are the things they like:

  • To be right
  • To know what is expected of them
  • Clear instructions
  • An established pattern
  • Making lists and finishing what they start
  • Organizing things.

Having a High C personality at your workplace or at home will help you have a more organized life and/or tasks, however, it is important to remember that you will need to have details laid out for them. They are highly logical and need to understand why something is being done at all. But once they see the logic and take the task into their own hands, be sure you have nothing to worry about anymore. These reserved and task-oriented folks will ask a lot of questions, but they are all worth it.

Why Is Communication Regarded as Difficult and Complex

Each person on this planet gives and receives information in completely unique way. The reason for it is that we all have a specific lens that we look through and that lens determines how we see life. Harsh truth is this: until you learn how to expand that lens, you won’t be able to communicate with people as effectively as you could, and your relationships are going to suffer as a result.

The key to good communication is to understand what drives people to do what they do and say what they say, and why do people communicate verbally in a way they do?

Communication style of every person depends on their personality style.

High D personality style will communicate very directly, and they are going to say things in a very few words. These people like to move fast and talk fast so you can expect them to give you a short answer to a question and answer exactly what you asked and nothing more or less Also, a high D personality type is going to interrupt you if you start to tell a tale and talk a lot. Remember: they are not trying to be mean, but their brain is just full of questions and news ideas and they must say what is on their mind as soon as it comes there.

If a person from your environment likes to talk with their hands, they are probably a high I personality style. These people are very emotional and excited about everything. They have high energy and want to express themselves any way they can. That means you can expect a lot of emojis in their text messages and emails. Also, they suffer from shiny object syndrome, so they get distracted very easily and extremely fast. Remember that they are not trying to annoy you, they are just wired that way and they need you to snap them out of excitement and pull their focus back about the conversation.

Your co-worker or a friend who doesn’t say much and does so softly when they do is probably a high S personality style. This behavior comes from their lack of willingness to rock the boat or to create conflict. These people are afraid that they will offend someone if they speak their mind and you can expect them to give up on their wishes to please others.

Being cautious in communication is also the biggest trait of a high C personality style. You can recognize them through their monotone tone of voice and lack of emotions. Their expression is never too low nor too high. But don’t get fooled; high C’s are buzzing in the background. Their mind is full of questions and that’s why they communicate the way they do because they need to process all the information carefully to say the right thing, at the right time, and to the right people.

Did you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions? Take notice that without self and social awareness, we can not communicate effectively.

The starting point is to understand yourself and your personality style. That will help you know how and why you communicate and how you can communicate with other personality styles.

You can find out more about different personality styles on my YouTube channel or on my Podcast, and if you want to take that first step towards better communication today: check the DISC assessment in the Store.

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