Do you know what makes you tick? Have you ever tried to figure out the situations that make you tick? Finding out what your triggers are will help you understand yourself better and allow you to realize what makes other people tick.
One of the first steps in finding what makes you tick is to look at your identity. And identity is based on a multitude of factors, and they all affect who you ultimately are. Some of these factors are:
- your personality
- your temperament
- the culture of the family you were raised in
- the culture of the geographical point where you were raised
- …
How is the world divided?
When we think about what makes you tick, personality and temperament factors are the key. They directly impact how you view the world, communicate with others, and receive communication from others.
That’s why the world is divided into two groups: outgoing people and reserved people.
Outgoing people never met a stranger in their life. They are excited about everything, enthusiastic, optimistic, and full of energy! They think and go simultaneously, moving fast like a supercar on a freeway. Their mantra is: I’ll sleep when I’m dead.
Their counterparts, reserved people, are more controlled in their gestures. They get involved at a slower pace and take time to speak up to ensure they won’t offend anyone. They think things through before acting, but once they get moving, you can count on them on each step of the road.
Another way to divide the world is into people-oriented and task-oriented kinds.
Those who are people-oriented are all about emotions, caring, sharing, and relationships. But the task-oriented folks are all about getting things done. And they want it done with function, form, procedures, and organization.
How to know what makes you tick?
The DISC Graph will help us.
High D personality style people never met a challenge they couldn’t face. No is just another question towards getting a Yes for them. They are focused on a task, not just that they want to be in charge: they don’t have a problem saying so.
High Is are all about fun. They don’t need to go to a party, as they are the party! They can approach anyone at any time and will always make sure that people are having fun.
When it comes to High Ss, they have the aura around them that makes people approach them and start talking. And Ss will listen in their true supportive personality. They are reserved and don’t approach people easily, but they will give you the shirt off their back if you approach them. True people persons.
The last group is High Cs. They are cautious, reserved, and all about tasks. They want to have a procedure for everything, be consistent and tick out every task in a day. They literally won’t sleep at night if they can’t do that.
How do we know one another?
We are actually all consistent of all 4 groups: D, I, S, and C. However, we have dominant traits and almost invisible traits in our behavior.
Whichever style is dominant for a person, the characteristics of that style will give them energy. And vice versa.
For example, I am a High I (I score 92 out of 100 points on the DISC Assessment). That means I’m people-oriented and outgoing. So people give me energy; I love being involved with others. But what is taking my energy are tasks and organization. That means I can do a spreadsheet, but I won’t be good at it, and it will take a lot of my energy. That’s how I know what makes me tick.
Once you position yourself on the graph above, you can understand yourself. That will lead you to know what takes energy from you, what gives you energy, and what ultimately makes you tick.
Once you understand that for yourself, you can better understand others. So, you will be able to communicate better and adapt your behavior to have a more peaceful life at home, at work, or anywhere else you go.
The first step to really understanding yourself is to take an assessment. There are tons of them online, and you can go ahead and search for them. You can also use the link here to get an assessment for you. You will find assessments for you, kids, teenagers, and leadership assessments…
What you get after taking a DISC Assessment is a six-page long scan of you. With six pages of learning who you are. They’ll give you your strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots, and they’ll give you a piece of discussion material that you can put in front of someone and see if they think the description fits you. This creates a wonderful discussion on a path of self-discovery.
If you really want to transform the way you communicate and reduce conflict in your relationships with a partner, friends, and family, get yourself an assessment. Have others in your circle take it too, and that’s going to build a relationship, generate a conversation, and transform the way you communicate.
